What women don’t understand about men
Rather offbeat and also really rather good.
I’ve told Lisa what a man needs to effect the transition from his - natural - state of being an infidelity waiting to happen.
It may or may not be true but it’s certainly a lovely way of putting it.
“That’s right. To be faithful without having to think about it; for it to be his default position. Oh, he still will be unfaithful, of course, if unusual circumstances occur. But once resignation’s arrived then he’s, you know… faithful at room temperature.”
“Resignation.”
She appears to be having a surprising amount of trouble with this word. “Yes,” I say. “It’s when you’ve just given up; accepted - consciously or unconsciously - that you’re simply never going to have sex with another woman ever again. That no other woman would even consider it; that the very idea is laughable. It was something you entertained at least dreamily in the past, but - like being a rock star or the world champion in kick boxing - it’s not even a vague possibility now. Gone. Over.”
Fortunately things really aren’t quite that bleak. But it is a lovely little piece of writing.
September 1st, 2008 at 8:56 pm
So, is this writer saying that once a man hits a point where he is no longer attractive to other women, it is only then that he will be faithful? Is this a hint to all of us women, to perhaps stuff our guys with high-fat disgusting food and beer?
It has been shown that fat men are more faithful than normal-weight men, http://www.ananova.com/news/story/sm_1356312.html. This study of 1000 German men said that fat men were less likely to cheat, visit brothels, or call sex hotlines. But actually, it is not because of a lack of opportunity, said the study, but because fat men have less desire for risky sex than other men.
Tim adds: That is what he’s saying, yes. And there’s a certain truth to it. The better looking you are (for either sex) the more opportunity there is for having sex with someone else. Thus, the worse looking you are, the more likely you are to be faithful. Not because you so much desire to be but the opportunities not to be are few and far between.